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Behavioral Performance Standards Seven Habits of Highly Successful People
To create satisfied customers - to give the customers more and better service than they expect - with quality service and quality people. What the customer wants - Job-Related BehaviorTo
be understood - Exceptional listening skills
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Can be counted on consistently; keeps and honors all commitments |
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Consistently on time; seldom if ever, absent |
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Does whatever it takes to get the job done |
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Doesn’t
need to be followed around to assure responsibilities are met |
Satisfactory Behavior:
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Steady and reliable most of the time; keeps and honors most commitments |
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Seldom late for work; phones in well in advance if unable to come |
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Gives a fair day’s work for a fair day’s pay |
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Occasionally
requires reminders to get responsibilities completed |
Unsatisfactory
Behavior:
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Tends
to forget commitments on occasion |
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Comes in late for work without reason |
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Absent one day a month or more; doesn’t seem to carry fair share of the workload |
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Frequently
requires reminders or assistance to meet responsibilities. |
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Maintains sight of long-term objective while dealing with the immediate stressful/difficult situation |
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Thinks
and responds quickly; able to improvise to successfully achieve results
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Remains calm and is able to keep others under control during a crisis/stressful situation |
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Completes
responsibilities with a high degree of quality even under pressure
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Satisfactory
Behavior:
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Sometimes loses sight of long-term objective when challenged by a stressful/difficult situation |
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Occasionally
has difficult thinking and responding quickly or improvising; results not
always successful |
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Remains
calm most of the time; occasionally has difficulty controlling others during
a crisis/stressful situation |
Unsatisfactory
Behavior:
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Frequently loses sight of the long-term objective when challenged by a stressful/difficult situation |
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Has
difficulty thinking and responding quickly; rarely can improvise to assure
successful results |
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Rarely
remains calm; contributes to others losing control during a crisis/difficult
situation |
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Frequently
has difficulty maintaining standards of quality under pressure |
Interpersonal Skills
Exceptional
Behavior:
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Able
to establish and maintain harmonious relationships with almost everyone |
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Frequently praised by others for ability to get along or receives no complaints |
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Lightens
a situation through humor or positive comments |
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Listens
with empathy and responds in a manner which makes the other person feel good |
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Occasionally has difficulty establishing a harmonious relationship with another individual |
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Occasionally
praised by others for ability to get along or receives a few complaints |
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Doesn’t
make a situation more tense |
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Demonstrates
empathy most of the time; occasionally puts self before others |
Unsatisfactory
Behavior:
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Frequently
has difficulty establishing harmonious relationships |
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Receives
frequent complaints from others |
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Often
contributes to making situations uncomfortable |
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Rarely
empathetic; puts self first most of the time |
In
the show Hunt For Red October when the Russian sub that had been following the
Americans launched their torpedo, Sean Connery had the CIA agent sit down at the
controls and steer the Red October back toward the torpedo–in fact, they
picked up speed. You could hear the countdown 5-4-3-2 –1 Impact! And
the torpedo was deflected away.
The
same strategy applies when we look at managing stress and coping with change. We
can’t stop the torpedoes in our life from coming at us. This ranges from
personal stress to changing computer programs, long-winded or irate customers,
ringing telephones, not being caught up in your work.
The
idea is to learn to become “stress hardy” to handle the stresses and changes
that arise to be able to face the challenges head on and deal with them before
they blow up on us.
The
first step is to realize that we are not sick, dumb, crazy or stupid when we
react to stress and change. Our bodies react by pumping adrenaline into our
system, our pulse rate goes up, our blood pressure elevates and our breath
becomes shallow. Stress can put your body through this procedure 40 to 60 times
a day.
Our bodies react by elevating the blood pressure and cholesterol levels, storing
fats and fluids and we end up with weight gain. Prolonged periods of stress
cause a flow of the chemical cortisol into our system.
To
put it simply, stress is the physical, emotional and mental wear and tear from
responding to situations and events in our life. The first is emotional. Common
signs are:
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Irritability
or anger |
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Apathy |
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Depression
and withdrawal |
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Overcompensation
and denial |
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Perfectionism |
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Low
self-esteem |
The next reaction is behavioral. We begin to act out our frustrations like this:
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Avoidance
or neglecting |
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Absent minded |
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Forgetful/poor
concentration |
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Negative
self talks |
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Addictive/Compulsive
behavior |
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Poor
time management |
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Financial
or legal problems |
Finally, we get physical. Our bodies go through pain and illness to get our attention:
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Indigestion |
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Headaches/Neck
pain |
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Fatigue |
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Weight
gain/loss |
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Insomnia |
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Flu
and colds |
There
are three basic ways to deal with stress. The first is to realize that stress
comes from our own perceptions and beliefs. It’s how you think and feel a
situation “ought” to be.
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Ask
yourself am I willing to react to this differently? |
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Can
I change the way I think and feel about it so it doesn’t upset me? |
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Is
it worth dying for? |
Studies
have proven that one fourth of all sudden death heart attacks are related to
prolonged stress and cortisol.
The
second option is to break the reaction. You do this by taking several deep
breaths, going for a short walk, listening to soothing music, meditating or
anything else that is fun and relaxing for you. By sending your body a
relaxing, calm message, your body realizes there is no need to dump adrenaline
and cortisol into your system.
The
third is physical exercise. Exercise has many benefits, but the key one in
stress management is that aerobic exercise actually helps rid your body of
excess adrenaline, cortisol and other chemicals and releases a positive
endorphin to give you a natural high.
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Learn your limits and when you’ve reached them back off, relax and reenergize. Burnout is not a good way to do a good job. |
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Cut down on caffeine – it increases tension, elevates blood sugar levels and makes us more sensitive to noise. |
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Spend
time with family and friends
– take time for fun things. |
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Find
quiet time for yourself – even if it’s daydreaming. |
“You
don’t have to blow out my candle to make your glow brighter”
Do
I look for the good in any situation?
Do
I get along well with different types of people?
Do
I try to build other people’s self-esteem?
Do
I accept people as they are?
Am
I a good listener?
Law
of indirect effort – in our activities with other people we get almost
everything we want in an indirect manner rather than in a direct way.
Create
trust by building people up instead of putting them down
Make
others feel important:
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Acceptance of other people – unconditionally, without judgment, even with their differences – for who they are – [A person has a healthy personality to the degree to which she can get along with the greatest number of different types of people] |
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Smile
– a smile conveys a thousand words in one simple gesture – it says
to the other person – I consider you to be worthwhile and valuable |
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Approval – praise and approve other people and their self-esteem goes up – express appreciation or gratitude and other people feel what they are doing or saying is of value [please and thank you]. |
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Admiration – admire traits, such as punctuality, generosity, helpfulness, possessions that people own. |
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Listening
– this builds character in the listener because active, concentrated
listening takes self-discipline. Listening builds self-esteem in the person
listened to. |
PEOPLE WHO TEAR OTHER PEOPLE DOWN END UP WITH
NEGATIVE AND/OR DESTRUCTIVE PERSONALITIES THEMSELVES.
HOW MUCH
WE LIKE OURSELVES DETERMINES HOW MUCH WE CAN LIKE AND ACCEPT OTHER PEOPLE.
THE
SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE
By Dr. Stephen R. Covey
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Be
Pro-Active: Take the initiative and the responsibility to make things
happen. |
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Begin
with the End in Mind: Start with a clear destination to understand where you
are now, where you are going, and what you value most. |
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Put
First Things First: Manage yourself. Organize and execute around priorities. |
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Think
Win/Win: See life as a cooperative, not a comprehensive arena where success
is achieved at the expense of the success of others. |
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Seek
First to Understand: Understand then be understood to build the skills of
empathetic listening that inspires openness and trust. |
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Synergize:
Apply the principles of cooperative creativity and value differences. |
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Renewal: Preserving and enhancing your greatest asset, yourself, by renewing the physical, spiritual, and mental and social/emotional dimensions of your nature. |